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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(It's nice to meet you.)
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
Writer Jo Seung Yeon, the intelligent, sexy man!
It's nice to meet you.
(Writer Jo Seung Yeon)
- Singer Eric Nam! - Eric Nam!
Hello. I'm Eric Nam.
Korea's top models,
Lee Hyun Yi and Lee Hye Jung!
- Welcome! - Hello.
- It's nice to meet you. - Hello.
Comedian Lee Seung Yoon!
(Comedian Lee Seung Yoon)
(The pitta, charming man)
- Today, we'd like to thank you... - That's right.
before we begin the show.
Hello started out to counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
The show has been going on for eight years now.
And this is the 400th episode.
(Congratulations.)
Seung Yoon and I are doing a show together on another channel.
He told me he was going to be on a very big show,
without telling me which one.
I only found out today that he meant Hello.
- He meant this show? - Yes, he landed it.
It's a big show.
- And it's the 400th episode. - Exactly.
I get to participate in this meaningful occasion.
- I'm so happy to be here. - All right.
We have something to celebrate today,
but so does Hyun Yi.
- What is it? - What is it?
I'm pregnant with a second child.
Oh, my.
That's so great.
- But... - That's wonderful.
How... Who...
- Right now... - "How"?
"How, who"?
Did you say, "how, who"?
What do you mean?
When you're pregnant,
- it usually shows. - Right.
But it doesn't show at all. How...
- It's already been 30 weeks? - Yes, 30 weeks.
I can't really tell.
- I'm giving birth next month. - It's soon.
- Next month? - That's right.
- So... - How can it not show at all?
Did any of you notice?
- No one noticed. - No one noticed.
I'm not the one who is pregnant.
I heard Eric prepared something for our 400th episode.
I prepared a little song as it is a happy occasion.
That's great.
("Good for You" by Eric Nam)
(I'll listen to everything)
(All together)
(What about some champagne with me tonight?)
(That sounds great.)
Latte at your favorite cafe
(He celebrates the occasion with his sweet voice.)
I'll be good for you
Thank you. Congratulations.
(Congratulations on the 400th episode.)
The song suits our show perfectly.
The first episode of Hello aired on November 2010.
During 400 episodes,
we've gone through a lot of changes.
It's been a growing and learning experience for us hosts too.
It's helped me a lot personally.
- Us too. - Right.
- We've changed on the outside too. - We sure have.
- I've become a lot mature. - Right.
(The hosts looked a lot younger 8 years ago.)
- Sometimes... - Pure sounds
Beautiful sounds
(Tae Gyun looks so young.)
He looked so young.
(Cute)
- He needs to overcome... - It suits you very well.
(I looked like that?)
"I'm a man too."
Can't you try to be more progressive?
I'm trying to be progressive.
- At a young age... - It'll help...
- And... - You don't like me?
- Chan Woo. - It's Jung Chan Woo.
The things you're worried about...
- Look at Dong Yeob. - He looks so young.
(The things you're worried about...)
- They can happen in the day too. - He looks so young.
(This is "I'll be back"?)
Are you dancing?
- The things you're worried about... - Look at Dong Yeob.
(Dong Yeob feel shy to see his old self.)
(It's hard to be a host.)
Who is that?
Hey!
(Shocked)
(A prude)
(As he feels embarrassed,)
(he takes it out on the dog.)
I've tried that. I pretended it was a salad.
You put kimchi...
(Grabbing)
(She has always eaten a lot.)
- Show me once more. - She ate a lot back then too.
She looks younger.
(She looks young.)
- She looks so young. - She does.
- Definitely. - Right.
(Her power was at its peak too.)
(Dong Yeob suffered.)
I think my head was smaller before.
- Right. - It's bigger now.
It's too bad Chan Woo isn't here today.
Right. I hope we'll see him again soon.
Dong Yeob, weren't you surprised?
- You looked like a baby. - He looked the youngest...
- among us. - I thought...
it was his son.
- You looked so young. - The thing is...
- Yeong Ja, your... - My hairstyle changed many times.
You've tried many different hairstyles.
My hairstyles... Yes.
Dong Yeob, which looks the worst?
You had short hair too?
(It looks very different.)
- It was in the beginning. - I even tried pigtails.
That looks really bad. I should never do it again.
The current hairstyle seems to suit you best.
- I think so too. - Right?
Apparently, I put on more weight.
I'm curious. During 400 episodes,
how many stories have arrived so far?
How many have we received?
We've received 49,545 stories in total.
Almost 50,000 stories...
have arrived.
And 1,206 stories have been introduced on the show.
- 1,206 stories? - And...
we found out how some of the people are doing these days.
I think I remember them. It's a son and his mom,
- right? Dancesport. - Yes.
"I Want to Break Up".
The mother loved her son too much.
He wants to grow as a dancesport competitor,
but his mom wanted to continue to be his partner.
She wanted her son to do everything with her.
So the son was getting tired.
(Is this the result of all the hard work?)
(That's it.)
She is addicted to competitions.
She enters more than 30 competitions a year.
After the show,
the son got a new partner.
- She is his new partner. - She is beautiful.
(He is not under his mom's control anymore.)
(He dances more beautifully with his new partner.)
She is from Russia. They started...
as dance partners, but now they're dating.
(They're dating.)
- My goodness. - They're getting married soon.
- Congratulations. - That's...
so amazing.
After seeing the pictures,
some in the audience decided to take dance classes.
- She is beautiful. - Let's move on.
He obviously favored his second son over his first son.
- He adored his second son only. - Too much.
Do you admit that you favor your second son?
Yes.
What exactly does your first son do?
He spills things and makes a mess.
My second son is still a baby.
- What? - He is too young.
Your first son is only nine years old too.
He is only nine.
He is his dad's son too. I feel sorry for him.
(The kid starts crying.)
- Oh, my. - His first son...
cried.
But since the show,
the first son has received a lot of love by his dad.
In addition,
- he debuted... - Really?
as a child actor.
His dad bragged so much to our staff.
It's great news.
Oh, my. Do you remember him?
He is a North Korean defector and lives with his grandmother.
Many peopled looked down on him...
and distrusted him. It worried him a lot.
He is a car dealer.
Even though they've been speaking politely,
they suddenly start speaking rudely.
They order me to bring water or a pen.
Some even leave.
(Some customers just leave.)
Apparently, I made them uncomfortable.
So I got fired.
(He got fired.)
After the show, many people recognized him...
- and wanted to... - Buy cars from him?
Yes. Many people bought cars from him.
He even bought a house for his grandmother.
- That's amazing. - I know.
(That's wonderful.)
It's great news. Do you remember this man?
He majors in a musical theater who is afraid of girls.
He couldn't even look...
his female classmates in the eye.
- He majors in a musical theater. - He majors in a musical theater.
In front of girls,
I become small. I lose all my confidence.
If a girl says, "Did you eat?"
(Mumbling)
Do you feel shy or...
do you think too seriously about every girl?
If I do this with that girl, she and I... Oh, no!
(Imagining)
That's so funny.
After the show,
he plucked up courage...
- and asked out his crush. - Really?
- That's great. - Now they're campus couple.
They're dating.
It's great news that they're dating.
That's so good to hear. And...
Isn't that the man who wanted to fly?
He wanted to invent something...
that would enable him to fly even for a very short moment.
He kept on trying.
And you flap the wings?
(Flapping wings)
(He flies up like a bird.)
(Landing)
(This is embarrassing.)
He is actually in the audience today.
- He is over there. - Hello.
- Hello. - Oh, my.
(Nice to meet you.)
You look happier than before.
I guess you stopped trying.
I'm still working hard to fly.
What's that?
He is still jumping down.
He keeps trying...
(He practices and practices.)
(Will he be able to fly this time?)
(He falls.)
(He fails again.)
- How long has it been? - I've been trying for eight years.
(He's been trying for 8 years.)
But I still haven't given up.
Has there been any positive change since the show?
Yes. I changed my approach.
I developed a winged car you can ride.
- A car you can ride? - Yes. In 2018,
I was invited to a festival in Germany. And...
Can it fly?
- Can it fly? - Well... I'm working on it.
But last December, it won an award from...
Korea Foundation for the Advancement of Science and Creativity.
As a prize, I received a 3D printer.
- We hope you'll be able to fly. - Thank you.
Thank you.
Not everyone on our show...
experiences positive changes.
Like him, some people stubbornly stay the same.
Some still continue to do so.
Since it's our 400th episode,
we have prepared some rice cakes and will share them with you.
- Enjoy! - Enjoy!
- We have more. - Please hand them to the back.
It's hot.
Hand it sideways.
(They share the rice cakes...)
(to celebrate their 400th episode.)
(Today's episode is...)
(a time of sharing and enjoying.)
All right, we have prepared three worries for today as well.
Show us the keywords, please.
"Just Quit Now!"
"I Report My Brother-in-law".
- "Caring for My Child". - "Caring for My Child".
"Just Quit Now!"
Hello.
(Surprised)
What is it?
Hello, I have a 14-year-old, a 13-year-old, an 11-year-old,
and a three-year-old toddler.
(Shocking)
I am a mother in her 50s with 4 children.
Isn't that amazing?
- This was why I was shocked. - Excellent.
She's in her 50s and has a 3-year-old toddler.
That's amazing.
Who's more amazing? The mother or the father?
Never mind.
They're both amazing.
As they grow up,
our financial situation gets tighter and tighter.
"Honey, it's so difficult to raise our kids."
"Please quit."
(She wants him to stop working?)
Why do I want him to quit?
It's because he's not bringing home any money...
with the excuse of starting his own business.
"Honey, I'm sure I'll make it big this year!"
"I have a good feeling!"
He's been torturing me like this for the past three years.
- Goodness. - We're in so much debt...
and on the brink of being poor.
Because of him, I am currently working two jobs.
- "Honey." - Working while raising the kids?
"I don't have money for groceries this month."
"Hang in there a bit."
"We need to pay our monthly rent as well."
"People even survived during the Korean War, so don't worry!"
- "Just hold on!" - The Korean War?
Will he come to his senses after we are broke?
Please help my husband come to his senses.
(Please help my husband come to his senses.)
- I have a 4-year-old son. - I see.
Just following him around tires me out.
- I bet. - But this woman works...
two jobs while tending to her kids.
- That's unbelievable. - Right.
A business that doesn't make any money shouldn't be called one.
- Right. - It's a hobby.
- Right? - I beg to differ.
(A story about a future industry.)
These days, our jobs aren't guaranteed forever.
- Right. - Who knows what will happen?
He could be trying to learn a different field...
that seems promising in the next 10 years.
If he wants more experience and personal connections...
in that new field, I think his family needs...
to acknowledge that for their future.
- In any case, - Yes?
I guess they really love each other.
(They have 4 kids.)
- Right. - Right?
- Because they have many kids? - Yes.
Once she comes to the stage,
let's intensely analyze that question.
Please come out!
Seung Yoon, escort her.
(Who is the wife of this man who has his own business?)
(Lee Shin Hwa)
Escort her. Grab her hand.
(Eric and Seung Yoon escort her.)
(He grabs her hand suddenly.)
(She lets go immediately.)
(My hand's clean, you know?)
She let go of Seung Yoon's hand and held onto Eric's.
I noticed that.
She listens to her instincts.
(They understand.)
You have four kids, but your husband...
doesn't bring home any money?
No.
My oldest kid is in middle school,
and the youngest is 17-months-old. I have 4 children in total.
- 17 months? - Yes.
I'm sorry, but how old are you?
I just turned 50.
- 50? - Yes.
I guess you lowered your guard before your last baby.
You're right.
I guess you two have great chemistry.
(She sighs and agrees.)
All right.
"That's the only thing we have."
My husband formerly worked at a subsidiary for LG...
as a researcher.
He used to make 4,000 to 5,000 dollars a month.
- He was reliable. - How long ago was this?
He really enjoys making things.
He wants to make various things.
In 2014, he quit his job.
I tried to dissuade him from doing that.
Since we have so many kids, I told him it'd be better for him...
to work at a company.
Ever since he started his business, he brought home no money.
How did you manage?
In the morning, I work as an assistant kindergarten teacher.
In the afternoon, I work as an assistant...
for disabled kids.
Since I'm only an assistant teacher at the kindergarten,
I do tasks such as cleaning the toilets.
When I was younger, I was a kindergarten director.
I wanted to continue working, but my husband wanted me...
to focus on our family when we got married.
He made me quit my job.
But now, if I were to quit, our family would be in trouble.
Doesn't your husband know about this situation?
He'd be an idiot if he didn't.
I haven't heard that in a while.
(Nostalgic)
"He'd be an idiot if he didn't."
I only make 1,500 dollars a month.
That's all you use...
for your family of four kids?
Yes.
(Is that even possible?)
- With a family of six, - I know.
I don't know how it's possible...
- It's ridiculous. - to live with that amount.
He should know better.
Excuse me, but is that a question or are you just talking to yourself?
- Is that a question? - I was talking to myself.
- Were you? - It was just my own thought.
- I see. - If this all adds up...
- Is this a question? - Yes, it is.
Please make it clear.
I feel like your debt will increase more and more.
You're right. Our monthly rent is two months overdue.
I need to pay the utility bill and for my kids' academies.
And since they're growing up, I need even more money.
- I bet they eat a lot. - They do.
I stopped going to the supermarket.
- You did? - Yes.
Then how...
I go to the market...
- Traditional markets? - and only buy the necessities.
I buy things like milk or eggs only if I have to.
I don't dare to buy meat.
We've gone out to eat once,
and it cost more than 100 dollars.
- So... - Right.
I'm thankful that they eat well,
but at the same time, I'm worried about our budget.
So I didn't eat that time.
My husband and I just watched our kids eat.
I'm just curious.
As for the house...
Be clear whom you're asking.
Well...
Is this a soliloquy?
"I'm just curious."
(It's an adorable soliloquy.)
- He tends to... - I know.
speak his mind loudly.
Please give me some time to adjust.
There is something I'm curious about.
How does he have money to open up his own business...
when they have no money? I should ask.
- I know. - Excuse me.
You're on a very tight budget.
Does your husband have money for his business?
No, he borrowed money.
- You borrowed money? - Yes.
We currently have a debt of 40,000 dollars.
He borrowed 20,000 dollars for his business.
Did you already use up your severance pay?
Of course.
We've also used our deposit.
Do you tell your husband how you're struggling...
to make ends meet and pay for the debt?
- I do. - And what does he say?
In the beginning, he used to say that he was sorry.
But now, he gets angry.
- What does he say? - He says,
"Did I do something wrong?"
"Can't you just hang on for a little while longer?"
- "Can't you wait?" - "It's not like I'm doing nothing."
Exactly.
(That's harsh.)
I'm sure through your appearance on our show,
you wish for your husband to change a certain way.
How would you like him to change?
I hope he can think realistically and close down his business.
- I'd like for him to get a job. - I see.
He can start by making 1,000 dollars.
I just want us to have a fresh start...
and save up money for our future.
Let's hear what he has to say.
Let's welcome him. Hello.
Hello.
(He has made no money for the past 3 years.)
Can you empathize with her?
It'd be a big mistake if I couldn't. I do understand.
I also had no idea I'd be suffering this long...
after opening up my own business.
Businesses are something you can't really control.
I'm doing my best.
That time when she told you about this situation,
why did you say things such as...
that this wasn't the Korean War and that they wouldn't starve?
It's not like I'm using money...
to drink, smoke, or gamble.
All the people who sit there say that.
- That's not what I'm doing. - Goodness.
I've been working 365 days a year.
I've been working for 6 years.
I'm sure that soon enough, I will reap the benefits.
(I can't hold on any longer.)
I'm really curious what kind of business this is.
I'm manufacturing and developing 3D printers.
You manufacture and develop 3D printers?
- I did hear that 3D printer... - 3D?
was promising for the future.
But there are many inexpensive ones made in China.
- Are yours any different? - It's the same.
Sure, Chinese printers are inexpensive and good.
But the ones from China are complete products.
The ones that I make are educational kits.
That's what I'm working for.
In Europe, Japan, and the States,
they give technical training with these kits.
I've been giving education to all grades, even college students.
(He does try.)
I'm sure you're busy with your business,
- but your family is struggling. - Right.
One-person businessmen have so much to do.
They manufacture, sell,
and also give lectures on their products.
It's a lot of work for one person.
If you think about successful people, it's impossible...
to take care of your work and family at the same time.
(What did you say?)
You need to make a sacrifice.
Due to the social atmosphere these days,
those who don't earn a lot of money are treated as sinners.
But I don't think that's right.
Being poor is not a sin. It's just inconvenient.
Therefore, it's not a great sin.
Sir, what you're saying...
sounds convincing.
However, your family can't afford to use a heater right now.
You and your family might end up on the street.
Do you know how she pays bills by any chance?
Since my wife takes care of it, I don't know.
"Steve Jobs, one of the founders of Apple, was able to..."
"grow his company through hard times like this."
This is what he always says.
When Steve Jobs was developing...
a computer with his friend in his garage, was he married?
Not only he was single at the time...
Did he have four children?
He had none.
And what's important...
(That's a bad comparison.)
Seung Yeon, you said you wanted to cheer for him earlier.
What do you think about what we heard so far?
First of all, you're a CEO,
and a financial statement is the most important to a CEO.
If you know nothing about your family finance,
I wonder if you're able to run your own business.
Seung Yeon is right.
(That feels so good.)
Your wife said that you have at least 20,000 dollars of debt...
you owed for your business alone.
And I'm sure you actually have a debt.
I have a larger debt than she knows. However,
I can't reveal it in front of my wife.
- Gosh. - Then who...
- Then tell us instead of your wife. - You see,
considering my business status, it's normal.
How much investment is needed in a year?
It costs about 100,000 dollars.
It's been 6 years. Then have you spent 600,000 dollars until now?
(He spent as much as 600,000 dollars.)
As a matter of fact, I have.
She must've been very upset. Her mic went into her sweater.
She must've been really upset.
At first, I also cheered for him.
Since 3D printers are getting spotlight these days,
I encouraged him to give it a try.
However, I realized that my husband...
is rather cut out to be a developer or a researcher.
He's not a business minded person.
- He's not business minded. - Yes.
I'm sure you went through a hard time...
while running a business alone.
When I just started my business, European buyers visited my office.
I got an order for 100,000 printers.
(The buyers ordered 100,000 printers!)
(Isn't it a big hit?)
So I thought I would become very successful.
But when they saw my office, they were very disappointed...
because I hadn't even produced 100 printers a month before then.
So I lost the chance. And the year before last, I got an offer...
to supply my products to 50 stores from a large supermarket brand.
But I didn't have enough fund to produce the ordered quantity.
If you can't produce the quantity ordered by your clients,
how are you going to run your business?
I'm trying to change the business environment...
in order to improve the distribution structure...
in accordance with a one-man business.
I've been preparing for this all these years,
and I'm about to achieve my goal.
But my family is about to go broke,
and we ended up on a TV show.
Three years ago, he promised me that if his business didn't go well,
he would close his business and get a job.
- Three years ago? - Yes.
However, he said the same thing last year...
- and this year. - He didn't keep his promise.
That's right. Judging from that, I can't trust him.
While running my business for six years,
I got a job offer 3 or 4 times...
(He got job offers.)
From companies in a related field.
You may not understand me,
but I worked hard even in my dreams.
That's how much effort I made for my product.
The result of the tremendous effort I made for the research...
is in my product. I want to...
finish it with my own hands.
(I want to finish it with my own hands.)
Sir, many people think that when they make...
their business a success and earn a lot of money,
they can make up to their families...
for the hardships their families went through.
- But many lose their families. - Of course.
You broke your promises to your wife and put your kids through hardship.
You can't make it go away. So when you become successful,
and you're going to enjoy the fruit of success,
your family might not be with you. Have you ever thought about it?
(Your family might not be with you.)
I was told to stop the running train to look back at my family.
However, I always ask myself...
if that would be the path I should follow for my family.
I always ask that to myself.
What was your conclusion?
(What was his conclusion?)
I think I can't stop the train.
If you keep it running like this,
You might fall off a cliff.
You might end up going into the mountain,
become a man of nature, and meet Seung Yoon.
- I might visit him. - Well, that's...
Why do you think you should be the one to run this business?
Right. That's a good question.
- I've been asked that question. - Was it good?
- Some people around me said, - I'm glad it's a good question.
"It's not like you're an ardent patriot."
- "Why would you do this?" - Why do you want to do this?
"Why do you study about 3D printers?"
However, I believe...
that if you give up on something because it's hard to do...
and avoid trying it, there would be no one who can succeed...
- in doing it. - Why do you call it avoiding?
I understand his pride and sense of duty...
of making a 3D printer made in Korea.
It's not an easy matter.
I don't think he knows what his children...
are going through. How are they doing?
The kids are very unhappy.
Not long ago, our oldest child went on a school trip,
so the kid asked me for the school trip fee.
I checked the notice to parents, and it cost 400 dollars.
Honestly, I didn't want to send our child on that school trip,
but I took out an insurance loan for my child.
- It's a loan on premium. - I see. An insurance loan.
I took out a loan to send the kid on the trip.
And our second child asked us to buy a bicycle.
We bought a used bicycle...
for our child. Then the kid said,
"How much did you pay for this?"
"It doesn't run well. It's too heavy."
"I don't want to ride this bicycle."
- Other kids have nicer bicycles. - Right.
(This audience member seems very upset.)
Why don't you invest in your children's future?
Look at the lady sitting behind him.
She's looking so angry.
You seem so stressed out.
Can't you digest the rice cake? Or are you upset about his story?
She kept doing this.
Are you frustrated about what he's saying?
(She tries to communicate through body language.)
We can read your lips when you say swear words.
- Please be careful. - Exactly.
- Please share your opinion with us. - Why?
I want my children to live a wealthy life...
even if I have to sacrifice myself.
That's what we're living for.
And I want to help my kids become successful.
But he can't seem to think of it, which made me angry.
- Is that why you swore? - Yes.
All right. Please give him back his microphone.
Please cover your mouth when you swear.
What is your daily routine?
I wake up at 7:30am...
and help my kids prepare to go to school.
I help them wash up and feed them.
When my husband drives our youngest child to kindergarten,
I clean the house, fold laundry, and other house chores...
because I go to work by 10am.
I finish my work as a kindergarten assistant teacher...
at around 3pm.
Then I start my work as a personal assistant for handicapped people.
I finish that work between 7:30pm and 8pm.
Then I make dinner for the kids...
and check their homework.
I go to bed between 11pm and midnight.
These are what I do every day.
That's the only thing he does.
- Driving one kid to kindergarten. - That's right.
I feel bad that my wife is going through hardship.
However, I would like to say something.
Except when I go to the bathroom...
and give a lecture...
Since I work all night long quite often,
I spend the most time working,
but still a year feels too short.
A day is too short for me.
(I really can't communicate with him.)
Someone working in the same industry is here as well.
In my opinion, Mr. Hong here...
is the best in Korea when it comes to...
designing and producing a 3D printer.
I think he's the best in Korea.
However, since he does all the work by himself,
He can't take care of his family very well.
I feel bad about it.
Don't you think it's impossible for him to succeed?
Because he didn't have enough fund,
he had no choice but to do all the work by himself.
But a new national certificate was established last year.
(17 new national certificates has been established.)
(Now there are national certificates in making a robot and a 3D printer.)
And therefore, the demand is increasing more and more.
(It's getting better at least.)
Are you married, sir?
No. I'm still single.
If you're married and have four children,
and your wife is the breadwinner, how would you feel?
From what you said...
To be honest, if I were him,
I would be agonizing.
Nevertheless, if I have such good skills like him,
I don't think I can give up.
(I don't think I can give up.)
- So... - People like that are around him.
Coincidentally, the flying man is sitting with them.
- Right. - Hold the mic, please.
I have a lot to say.
- Please tell us. - I get it.
- I cheer for him. - I see.
I understand his wife's concerns too.
However, despite that,
I cheer for his passion.
I knew it. I did.
- Right. - When the children are sick,
you need your husband to be there with you to keep yourself strong.
What does he do when the kids are sick?
Last year, my second child was diagnosed with sinusitis.
There was a large lump in this area...
like a large cancerous lump.
I took my kid to a large hospital to find out what it really was.
The doctor said that I could've found it...
if my kid had taken an X-ray at the age of 4 or 5.
But I couldn't notice it, and so the infection spread over the face.
- Did pus fill up the nose? - So I...
Yes. That caused...
facial asymmetry.
- Because it's heavy. - But my child is too young...
to have surgery.
When my child grows up, the lump gets bigger,
the surgery can be done.
But it's impossible right now.
(Their child developed a disease because of his indifference.)
I'm sure that you also have...
health problems.
After giving multiple births,
I developed gestational diabetes.
It became regular diabetes,
so I take medicines.
I must be very exhausted...
because I have passed out suddenly three times.
- Why? - Three times?
(Her health has reached a dangerous level.)
There is something that angers me more.
He stopped visiting my parents 10 years ago.
(They can't believe what they heard.)
"Go by yourself. We can't take all the children."
My heart aches when he says that.
I have 10 siblings.
He says no one will notice...
even if I am not there and refuses to go.
However, we visit his parent from time to time.
How could you not visit your in-laws for 10 years?
(Being busy doesn't explain it.)
(Embarrassed)
Make your in-laws with the 3D printer.
The thing is,
the holiday season comes back too often.
After a year, it's the holiday season again.
I work.
A year passes in a blur because I am busy with work.
But you visit your parent.
My mother lives alone.
(She is so annoyed that she can only laugh.)
Then live alone. You should live alone.
Hyun Yi, your baby will hear you.
(Don't be angry.)
- This show isn't good for her baby. - Seriously.
What do you want from your husband?
This time I will give you three months.
In that time,
please wrap up making plans...
for your business.
Two times in a week,
do the dishes.
Help children with their homework.
Please do that.
Would you do as your wife wishes?
I can't wrap up the business in three months.
I can do the rest.
(He won't compromise when it comes to his business.)
I refuse to make a promise I can't keep...
just because I am on TV.
I need six months at the very least.
I am not in the business alone.
There are other people...
who depend on me...
- and help me. - No, no.
- No. - Think about your family.
I can't wrap it up in such a short time.
Sir.
Worry about your family before you worry about your business.
Your wife could collapse at any minute.
Your children are in poor health.
My father had the same thoughts.
Because he gave up on his duties to realize his dreams,
the rest of the family suffered their entire lives.
(The rest of the family suffered their entire lives.)
Young children had to bear the weight of life...
instead of their father.
Do you know how they lived...
as they suffered shame, humiliation, and hunger?
If you really want to run a business,
find a way to support your family...
as you do what you want.
Sacrifice sleep if you must.
(Do what you want by sacrificing sleep if you must.)
They waited six years. Can't you look after the family?
I am begging you.
Can't you look after the family?
Can't you make that sacrifice?
Until your wife becomes healthy...
and your children to graduate high school at least,
can't you sacrifice your dream for six years?
(Can't you give them some time to recuperate?)
Let's start with Seung Yoon. Is it a worry or not?
(He keeps a poker face.)
It's a worry.
(How did he know?)
(His choice is shown to everyone.)
- Did you cover it? - Yes.
- It's shown on the screen. - I see.
I am not familiar with electronics.
In any case, you should make an effort...
to become a better person.
Otherwise, come to the mountain with me.
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
I wonder what Seung Yoon's choice will be.
He was so cocky earlier.
He thinks it's a worry.
I am so frustrated...
that I have to say this in English.
- Say it in English. - Say it in English.
He used to be a researcher.
What are you doing?
"What are you doing?"
The amount of effort you have made...
is impressive.
However, your wife is making the same amount of effort.
You should know that.
Simply put,
you should think about...
whether every successful man abandoned his family...
to reach his goals.
- I don't think that's the case. - That's right.
I have seen more people...
succeed in life...
by spreading their energy.
Please say a few words to your wife.
How do you address her? Honey? Darling?
- I call her Madame Lee. - Madame Lee.
(Madame Lee)
Madame Lee, I am sorry.
I...
(He becomes silent because he feels bad.)
This year, I will do well.
I am serious.
I will do well at home and work.
And I love you.
(And I love you.)
(I hope everything works out for you.)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Show us the result.
(The result)
It will definitely get more than 100 out of 200 votes.
Out of 200 people,
how many voted? 170 votes.
(170 votes)
"I Report My Brother-in-law."
This brother-in-law has a job.
I am relieved.
(My goodness.)
(Everyone claps.)
Everyone claps upon hearing about the job here.
Hello, I am a woman in my 20s who lives in Daegu.
I have an older sister who got married...
less than a year ago.
These days, my sister doesn't look well.
"Is something the matter?"
"My husband didn't come home last night."
"What?"
"He didn't come home again?"
"Could it be that he is having an affair?"
Despite being a newlywed, my brother-in-law often sleeps out.
He doesn't come home before 12am.
(What could be the reason?)
He is addicted to games.
(He is addicted to games.)
My goodness.
- He is addicted to games. - That's the reason.
Ring, ring, ring.
"Hey. It's the weekend. What are you doing?"
"I am eating by myself."
"You are eating by yourself? Where is your husband?"
"He went to an internet cafe last night and hasn't come home."
"What?"
That's right. My sister...
eats and does household chores by herself.
Why did he marry her if he was going to live this way?
This is another bad one.
This is what frustrates me the most.
"Your husband is too much."
"You should say something."
"It's okay. He is that way because I am lacking."
"My husband isn't a bad man."
It's frustrating...
to see my sister say she is okay when she looks depressed.
It's about time I take an action.
Please talk some senses into my brother-in-law.
(Please talk some senses into my brother-in-law.)
The thing is, a couple fights very often...
in the first year of marriage.
This worry was sent by the wife's sister.
The couple might not have a problem.
That might be the case despite the wife's sister.
Only a couple knows...
what goes on between them.
Let's talk to the person who sent the worry.
Please come on out.
Eric and Seung Yoon, please escort her.
(Who is worried because of her brother-in-law?)
(Eric dances to welcome her.)
(Hong Geum Bi)
How often does your brother-in-law play games?
He plays all games...
including PC games and phone game.
When he comes home, it's about 12am.
He plays games until 3 or 4am.
Really?
Then he goes to bed.
About 2 or 3 times a week,
he sleeps out to play games.
On the weekends, he lives at an internet cafe.
(He doesn't stay at home.)
Why are you here instead of your sister?
I am more frustrated with my sister.
She has talked to him about this matter.
She has cried, pleaded,
and gotten angry. She has tried everything.
He told my sister, "I am sorry. I will change."
Then he went back to his old ways.
My sister has given up.
She blames herself.
"This is happening because I am lacking."
(She blames herself.)
"He plays games to relieve his stress."
"The family will be at peace if I endure this."
"This is happening because I am lacking."
She says that...
and blames herself.
It breaks my heart...
to see her eat and wait alone.
You intervened because you couldn't stand it.
That's right. A few weeks ago,
I talked to my brother-in-law about this matter.
"Would you please come home?"
"I will take out a loan if I must..."
"and buy you a nice computer. Would you please come home..."
"instead of going to an internet cafe?"
- I pleaded with him. - Okay.
My brother-in-law said,
"I am sorry, Geum Bi. I will play games less."
Then he slept out last week.
(He doesn't listen.)
I have a question.
Your sister could have sent this worry...
herself.
Did she ask you...
to send you this worry?
Hyun Yi is thinking,
"Gosh, she is so nosy."
That's not true.
The couple could be doing well.
You never know.
Both of them ask me for help.
My sister tells me she is frustrated because of her husband.
- How about your brother-in-law? - He contacts me...
when my sister is angry about his gaming habits...
because he doesn't understand why she gets angry about it.
I tell him that it could be frustrating...
for my sister.
- What do you tell your sister? - I tell her...
that her husband must be under a lot of stress.
I comfort her that way.
I need to relay their messages.
She is caught in-between.
It must be hard for her.
It must be the hardest for her.
It must be hard to see your sister suffer...
and deal with their pleas for help.
They moved recently.
On the day of moving, she suddenly called me.
"Geum Bi, we are moving today."
"My husband went to the internet cafe yesterday,"
- "and I can't reach him." - On the day of moving?
- On the day of moving? - "He hasn't come home."
This is serious.
I was on a date with my boyfriend.
I apologized to my boyfriend and ran to my sister.
When I went, I saw that my brother-in-law had arrived...
a few minutes before I did.
That's when he started to pack up.
All right. We understand why Geum Bi intervened.
Let's talk to her brother-in-law. He gives a good first impression.
He looks like the handsome Kian84.
- He looks similar. - Let's talk to him.
- He looks similar. - Hello.
(Who lives in an internet cafe because of game addiction?)
Hello.
- Hello. - He looks like Kian84.
Close your mouth for a second.
- He is the handsome Kian84. - He looks similar.
- He resembles Kian84 a lot. - He does, right?
(They find a doppelganger.)
- All right. - Do you understand...
your sister-in-law's worry?
I am aware that I am addicted to games.
You are aware.
Since I can't play games during work hours,
I do it after work in the car or a convenience store.
(He plays games in a convenience store.)
I can't believe it.
Sometimes, I fall asleep in the car...
and wake up in the morning.
That's how I end up sleeping out.
(This is serious.)
I can't believe it.
What's in it...
for you?
Why are you so drawn to games?
It's a way to relieve stress. It's not like I drink or smoke.
Everyone says that.
Drinking and smoking would be preferable.
It's a way of compensating me...
for my hard work.
It's a small and certain happiness.
I go out on Saturday night...
and come home on Sunday night.
Do you stay at an internet cafe?
I fall asleep...
and wake up to play games some more.
(Let us remind you that he is a newlywed.)
When you dated your wife...
You and your wife dated, right?
- How did you do that? - We dated before we got married.
When you were dating her, you stopped playing games...
when she wanted to see you, right?
- Games weren't important then. - Why is it that...
you don't do the same anymore?
- Is it because she is your wife? - You don't try hard anymore.
She tells me it's okay.
She probably didn't mean it,
- That's right. - but I was slow-witted.
She probably meant, "Don't you dare do it."
- That's right. - She probably meant that.
I am bad at reading social cues.
- So I didn't know. - Have you always been bad at it?
Yes, I have. I have heard that a lot.
He admits his shortcoming. At least I am not frustrated.
- He admits his shortcoming. - That's right.
He says he plays games to relieve his stress,
but I don't think it makes sense.
Since he plays games until 3 or 4am,
he goes to bed late.
He is always late to work.
It disrupts his work.
When his boss calls him because he is late to work,
he makes my sister answer it.
(He makes her sister answer it.)
(Why does an adult do that?)
- What? - Why does he do that?
Then my sister apologizes...
in his stead.
Why does he do that?
Does he think of his wife as his guardian?
It's like handing over the phone to your mom.
He does it to avoid a scolding.
Since I am late to work very often,
it came to be that way.
(She shakes her head.)
Are you late to work very often?
Yes. I am bad at being on time.
- My goodness. - On Hello,
there was a worry about a girlfriend...
who is never on time.
- That's right. - I watched the episode.
- I am glad if she comes. - You are a good boyfriend.
There were times she didn't show up.
She didn't show up?
- We had to cancel the date. - Is that true?
I think he should be able to wait for me...
if he loves me.
"I don't care if he collapses."
I felt a prick of conscience because it was like my story.
Are you that bad at being on time?
I understood where she was coming from,
- but I reflected upon myself. - She is nodding.
- Let's talk to his wife right away. - Yes.
- All right. - There is another problem.
Hello.
- My goodness. - She looks so good-natured.
You look so good-natured.
- Thank you. - This must be a big worry for you.
I don't think it's a worry.
(Excuse me?)
(Why not?)
- What? - Are you serious?
- Why not? - It's as Hyun Yi said.
People told me newlyweds fight a lot.
- So it's not a worry. - I don't think it is.
I see. Let's wrap this up.
It isn't a worry.
(They got me.)
Then why do you call your sister and say...
it's hard on you?
I feel bad about telling my parents.
If I tell my friends,
it would seem like I am badmouthing my husband.
That's why I tell my sister, who is like a friend.
- Hold on. - So you are suffering.
- You said you are okay. - You aren't okay.
I try to be understanding,
but it's hard.
The thing is,
I forget about everything in an hour...
after I talk to my sister.
I guess Geum Bi kept it in her mind.
Gosh, I feel so bad for Geum Bi.
(Is she saying her sister is worried for no reason?)
- I feel so bad for her. - You don't dwell on...
what your husband does wrong.
I can understand where she is coming from.
When I was a newlywed,
I dreamt about being a good wife.
I just said, "It's okay."
When my husband asked what I wanted for my birthday,
I said, "It's okay." He didn't even buy...
flowers or a cake. There was nothing.
Men are like that. They think it's really okay.
I was so upset that I said, "You could have gotten me a flower."
- You were so upset. - I said that.
For my next birthday, he got me just a flower.
(A flower)
I can't believe him!
He listens to you.
He did exactly what you wanted.
It made me level up.
If you call him a fool, he will go...
(A fool?)
(I will be a fool for you.)
(He would do everything for her.)
(She can't laugh about it.)
Your husband sleeps out to play games.
Don't you feel lonely?
Don't you think, "Why does he do that?"
- Don't you feel disappointed? - You need to be honest.
You heard Hye Jung. If you say, "It's okay,"
men will think it's really okay.
- You need to be honest. - Tell us exactly how you feel.
I am disappointed.
- There you go. You need to say it. - You need to say it.
(Say what's on your mind.)
(She tried to be understanding...)
(and suppressed her emotions.)
I am disappointed. I am very disappointed.
(She says what is inside her heart.)
- You are very disappointed, right? - Yes.
It was my dream...
to have dinner and take a walk...
with my husband.
Before we got married, he said he would do those things.
Now, when I tell him that it's okay to play games,
he doesn't come home. So I am disappointed.
Why don't you tell your husband...
- how you feel? - She is crying.
Why don't you say that you are disappointed?
She knows what her sister is like.
(She feels bad for her sister.)
(You must have suppressed yourself a lot.)
Why did you say that?
(Why didn't you say that you are disappointed?)
- My goodness. - Does it hurt your pride?
I am afraid he will say he doesn't like me.
(I am afraid he will say he doesn't like me.)
- My goodness. - You are afraid of that.
(What's inside her heart is shocking.)
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- Why do you think that? - He might get tired of me.
He might get tired of me.
- "He might get tired of me." - "He might get tired of me."
(He loves her husband so much...)
(that she smiled on the outside and fought against loneliness.)
(She was crying on the inside.)
(My goodness.)
How do you feel upon hearing her words?
That's why she couldn't tell you how she feels.
I am shocked.
I didn't know. This is shocking.
(Your wife isn't okay. Do you get it now?)
When I heard that he plays games in the car,
I was shocked. "Does he do that because he hates me?"
"Do I lack charms as a woman?"
- It's understandable. - It gave you many thoughts.
I blamed myself a lot.
- "I must lack charms as a woman." - My goodness.
How many hours in a week do you spend with your husband?
Sleeping aside,
we spend less than 10 hours together.
10 hours in a week?
Yes. Is it 10 hours or less?
Is this a quiz?
Here comes the question. Is it 10 hours or less?
(Take care of your wife.)
When your husband talked about how he is never on time,
you nodded your head.
He has never waited for someone.
When we were dating,
I once waited more than three hours in the middle of winter.
- In the middle of winter? - Yes.
That's incredible.
We have another worry.
She waited for more than three hours.
I didn't realize the passing time.
Since I knew she would wait for me,
- You knew that. - I didn't think much of it.
But still, three hours is...
Let me ask you a straightforward question.
Dating is one thing,
but why did you marry him?
Although he has 10 bad habits,
he is diligent.
I thought he would change...
- since he has that. - You thought he'd change.
- He has one good trait. - He doesn't keep his promise.
How could he be diligent when he doesn't keep his promise?
He plays games diligently.
All right.
(The wife is too nice.)
People who play games could spend...
a lot of money.
Even before we got married, he spent money on game items.
- He spent money on game items. - That's the technical term.
Let's say the bill comes down to 1,000 dollars.
- He spends 50 percent on games. - He spends it on games.
He said it was the monthly payment for the car.
(He even lied.)
- He said it was for the car. - He lied?
Yes, I thought it was the monthly payment for the car.
Actually, I didn't tell my wife about this.
Several days ago...
(What?)
(You are not saying you spent more, are you?)
I bought some more several days ago.
Did you buy swords? What did you buy?
Every week, they release a pack.
I kept spending small amounts on those.
And it ended up amounting to 1,000 to 2,000 dollars.
(He's spent about 1,000 to 2,000 dollars.)
- It became a large amount. - In a month?
(No way.)
In a month? In a month?
- Not in a month. Over a few months. - You spent that much each time.
I spend 100, 10, or 50 dollars each time.
He promised me that he wouldn't buy any more of those.
Oh, dear.
Did you say you recently bought more?
- You recently bought more? - He said he bought more.
It's her first time hearing it.
When he gets paid every month, does he give you the money?
No, he doesn't.
(And yet he spends so much on games?)
He uses most of the money to pay back the debts.
By the way, did you incur those debts together...
after getting married?
- No, they are his debts. - His personal debts.
Because he has to repay the debts, I don't get any.
It's just like being addicted to gambling.
I don't get anything in return. It just...
- gives me satisfaction. - When you keep suffering...
from the consequences, why do you keep playing games?
It's...
(He's serious.)
- You don't have money to live. - How do you pay for things?
Whenever I have time,
I do a sideline.
I get side dishes and necessaries...
- from our parents and elders. - Oh, dear.
They give us some of them.
My sister actually...
Because they have to repay the debts,
instead of taking a bus...
or a subway,
she chooses to walk for 2 to 3 hours, even in winter.
Oh, dear.
She says she doesn't want to waste money on bus fare.
That's how she saves.
Whenever she visits home,
Dad sometimes gives her money.
He gives her an allowance.
She would save those.
But there are times when my brother-in-law needs money...
- unexpectedly. - There are occasions...
- There are events. - when you need money.
At times of those, he asks my sister for money.
- What? - But he doesn't give her money.
(That's just not right.)
When he does, my sister gives him...
- the money she got from Dad... - The allowance.
and the money she saved from not riding a bus.
- Does she give it to him easily? - Oh, dear.
Yes. "What can I do? He needs to pay the congratulatory money."
"What can I do? He needs to save his face."
He helps her.
So she ends up giving him the money.
- Actually... - Did you know...
that you were taking the money she got from her dad?
Of course, I knew.
You knew?
- Yes. Even when we were dating, - You still receive it?
This is frustrating in another way.
He admits it.
Why is it stressful though?
(He makes us feel dizzy.)
When I ask her if she wants to...
use my credit card, she says she can just be thriftier.
So I thought she was fine.
That's why I didn't think it was serious.
So he thought it was fine.
- It's... - He thought it was actually fine.
You heard him.
That's why he didn't give you money.
You regret it, don't you?
No, it's fine.
- Wait. - My gosh.
- What do we do? - It's not fine.
(Why can't you say that it's not fine?)
- It's not fine. - You are the problem.
You say it's okay. That's why he thinks you are really okay.
But when he finishes paying off the debts,
I am planning to ask him for money.
(You have to be honest to make your husband change.)
You have to have children.
You have many more years to live together.
Afraid of being rejected,
you don't tell him what's not okay with you.
If you keep doing this,
the problem will become much more serious in the future.
In the early days of marriage,
- people fight a lot. - You have to come to terms.
You are meant to fight a lot. You are supposed to fight a lot.
If you don't fight and neglect the problem,
- you will get into big trouble. - Right.
By the way, why are you overly considerate of your husband?
My husband is very soft-hearted.
It breaks my heart to nag at him.
If he was a really bad person,
he could've said, "Who are you to say that?"
But he says, "I am sorry. It's my fault. I won't do it again."
It's worse to apologize and to do it again.
This is why we shouldn't get involved in a couple's fight.
We are back to the starting point.
You think you are being considerate.
But you are actually just making him develop bad habits.
- Right. Right. - When...
did your sister look the saddest?
At times when she really needs him,
she is alone, and that's when she's the saddest.
Last year, she celebrated her first birthday after the marriage.
Her parents-in-law wanted to make a birthday meal for her.
- Her parents-in-law did that? - Yes, her parents-in-law.
But my brother-in-law drank too much the day before.
And he got sick.
We thought he doesn't drink or smoke.
He drinks and smokes.
- He does both. - What?
- He does both? - What?
(What?)
(He's so thick-faced.)
- He lies too. - He's a liar too.
He got sick.
So they ended up not going to parents-in-law's.
She had to stay by him and take care of him.
- My goodness. - She went to see a doctor with him.
At the time, I felt very sad.
I felt so sad...
that I wondered if I made the right decision of choosing him.
- You thought about that? - Yes. I regretted...
about 10 percent.
All right.
(It's as if she's risen above the secular world.)
- I... - I hope...
you will be more honest with yourself.
He needs to know.
She keeps saying she's fine.
But she's getting more and more depressed.
She usually doesn't cry easily.
But she felt bad about nagging at him and obsessing over him...
that she covered herself with a blanket and cried.
While talking to me about him,
she sometimes gets too emotional.
So she lowers her head and cries.
(She gets emotional and cries.)
(She put up with a lot.)
Do you often feel depressed?
Understanding my husband is...
While trying to understand him, I feel frustrated.
My chest hurts.
(My chest hurts.)
(Under the name of love, she's been putting up with everything.)
You've done nothing wrong.
- She can't tell him her feelings. - Right.
(Perhaps she's been casting a spell to herself that it's fine.)
It makes me have a lot of bad thoughts.
- What bad thoughts? - Don't do that.
I think it might be better to go separate ways...
than to hurt each other so much.
(She must've felt so lonely and tough.)
You love him so much though.
Because I love him so much, I think I need to...
- give him freedom. - Right.
- Because you love him too much? - Yes.
(She blames herself again.)
(It goes back to the starting point once again.)
Hearing your words, I kept thinking of this.
I couldn't stop wondering...
how much you love yourself.
Her self-esteem is too low.
- Yes. - She blames herself for everything.
I think it would be very important...
to learn to love yourself.
What do you say?
Your wife is even thinking about...
letting you go since she loves you so much.
I don't want that.
What do you think she should do then?
Have you ever tried to stop playing games?
No. He tries to think about it, but he's never done it.
I think talking about it here won't solve anything.
You know that you are squandering money and hurting your family.
And yet you still can't stop it.
I think you need to go to an expert...
and get treatment.
Do you think your obsession is that serious?
Or is it not that bad?
I think I've reached that level.
(He needs help.)
I think you can say that.
(He acknowledges the seriousness of the situation.)
That's good. Most people struggle to acknowledge that.
He can just go to an expert and get the treatment.
If there's something you want to tell him, say it.
I want him to go home...
and spend a little more time with my sister.
My sister should stop trying...
to cover up for him too much.
I want her to stop talking about...
leaving him.
I hope it will get settled well.
Please say something to your wife.
Tell her what you will do.
I kept giving you excuses, and I think that was bad.
I will stop going to the internet cafe.
I won't go on weekends either.
(Really?)
I will try to...
be more punctual.
I will try my best.
I love you.
Please say something to your sister-in-law too.
No matter what happens,
I will discuss it with your sister and figure out the solution.
Thank you for bringing us here.
I am always grateful and sorry to you.
(Please keep the promise this time.)
Is it a worry or not?
(Guest vote)
It's a worry. It's a worry.
Just because she says it's okay doesn't mean it's actually okay.
I hope you will keep trying to make things better.
I think her self-esteem is low, and she's very depressed.
I also think it's a worry.
He really loves his family,
so I think they will be fine if his addiction gets treated.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Please show us the result. "I Report My Brother-in-law".
(The Result)
(It was as frustrating as the story before it.)
(What is the result?)
125.
(She got 125 votes.)
The next guest...
is betrayed by someone who she's trusted...
for a very long time.
(He sighs right away.)
- What's wrong? - The previous stories...
were tough enough.
- You are struggling enough. - Yes.
And now this person is betrayed by someone she's trusted.
Please look at Seung Yoon.
- He looks like a wild animal. - Seung Yoon.
You suddenly aged.
- He suddenly aged. - It's...
When you get immersed in the stories, you get old.
Look. Look at Eric.
Look at everyone.
- It's... - Look at Hye Jung.
- How is it, Seung Yoon? - The more...
I concentrate on the stories,
the more I can feel that I am aging.
- I can feel new wrinkles forming. - I know.
I know.
(Welcome, it's your first time on Hello, isn't it?)
This story is titled "Caring for My Child".
Hello.
I am a mother of three children from Busan who is in her 50s.
- You are good at impersonating her. - My second daughter...
has been asking for a lot of things since she was young.
"Let me learn piano."
The five-year-old went to the piano school by herself...
and asked for a piano lesson.
So I supported her in any way I could.
When she went to middle school... "Mom, I want to learn vocal music."
"Let me get a lesson."
I supported her again.
When she turned 20...
"Mom, there is a college I really want to get into."
"Enroll me in the college entrance preparatory school."
I supported her again,
and she got into the school she wanted to go.
I thought my job was done.
She's 28 years old now, and she still asks for things.
"Mom, I have to pay this month's rent."
- "Give me some money." - Oh, dear.
"Mom, can't you buy me a car?"
"Give me some money."
She still asks for a lot of things. Actually, it's all because of...
her dream of becoming a singer.
"Darling, you are already 28."
"Why don't you find a stable job?"
"What are you talking about? I have to become a singer."
"Stay out of my life, will you?"
While giving her everything she asked for,
- I became 54. - Oh, dear.
Can you please stop my daughter?
(Please help my daughter become financially independent.)
All right. Let's meet her.
Please come on out.
(Who is the mother who wants to find her own life?)
(Choi Hyeong Yeon)
(Sliding down)
(He's surprised.)
She was in such a hurry.
Tell us how your daughter has been since she was young.
Since she was young,
she had talent in music.
While playing outside, she followed the piano sound...
and went to the piano school.
That's so cute. How old was she?
- She was 5. - She was 5.
Yes. She played well too.
She learned from a pianist who studied in...
- Australia. - From a pianist.
She said she had to have good grades too.
So she went to a tutoring school...
- for other subjects. - She wanted it?
Yes. When she was young,
she learned the violin too.
- Violin. - You invested...
- a lot in her. - She learned it when she was young.
- How much did you spend on her? - 10,000 dollars a year.
- You supported her so much. - You got her private education.
In the second year of middle school,
she said she wanted to become a vocalist.
- Vocalist. - I got her a vocal music lesson.
- You got her a lesson. - Yes.
She said she wants to study vocal music in college.
So I supported her to repeat a year to enter that college.
When she was preparing for the college,
I paid 400 dollars a month for the lessons.
She must've moved out. Did you help her to move out?
I helped her.
When she just moved out, I gave her 1,000 dollars a month.
(She gave her 1,000 dollars a month.)
(No way.)
- How about now? She's 28. - Yes.
- You don't support her, do you? - I...
I live in Busan.
She lives in Anseong.
Even though she moved out, I still pay for everything.
- Right. - Sometimes I send her...
up to 1,500 dollars a month.
But now, she has a part-time job.
So I give her 500 dollars a month.
You give her 500 dollars a month when she's an adult?
She teaches kids.
So she needed a car.
I gave her 4,500 dollars to buy a used car.
(She's taking all of her mother's money.)
Do you have one daughter?
No, I have three children.
She's the eldest. I have another daughter and a son.
- They are all in college. - You have three children.
Yes. My second daughter and my son...
do a part-time job and earn money for themselves.
They live at home. I...
- I... - Do you work too?
I do. Starting last year, I've been working as...
a nurse's aide. I got a license.
- You work so hard. - She's incredible.
Because the economy is bad, my husband is not earning...
much these days.
If your daughter becomes financially independent,
will you continue to support her dream of becoming a singer?
I think her future as a singer is not promising.
I want her to get a job that pays four insurances.
A stable job that pays for her insurances.
- I want her to have... - Parents love that.
- The 4 insurances. - The 4 insurances.
She can become a music therapist.
I want her to look into those jobs.
Do you not want your daughter to become a singer?
It would be nice if she becomes a singer.
But 10 years from now, the 4 insurances will come in handy.
I want her to get a stable job.
(A stable job is the best.)
I am curious.
How hard does your daughter work to become a singer?
She wants to be a singer.
- There are many audition shows. - There are a lot of them.
When I recommend her to go on those shows,
she says it's not her style.
She says she needs a story to go on those shows.
She said the times have changed...
and that a lot of singers succeed after turning 30.
She tells me not to worry.
You are from an audition show, Eric.
- That's right. - How competitive was it?
- It was really tough. - Of course.
Because you are talented, you were able to beat the competition...
and get this far.
I am curious about how well your daughter sings.
When she was in elementary school,
she competed in a singing competition by a TV channel...
and won a grand award.
She went on Hyunin Song Festival in 2014 and won the first place.
She also competed on Chin Chin Star Festival.
- Chin Chin Star Festival? - Yes.
She won a silver award.
She must win an award whenever she joins a competition.
But just singing well isn't enough to make you a singer.
- Right. - Right.
I am getting suspicious.
I think you are thinking the same thing.
- Are you trying to... - Right.
You want her to sing on national television.
- We are just wondering. - No.
- I had to persuade her to come. - You had to persuade her.
She didn't want to come.
Let's meet her daughter. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
My goodness.
Can you understand your mother's worry?
I can understand her well.
But because my future isn't promised,
- and because nothing is certain, - Right.
I feel frustrated too.
There's nothing much...
I can do about it.
When you should be giving a shot at everything,
you pick and choose where to perform.
And that makes your mother think that you are not desperate.
That's not it. I've applied for...
all the audition shows.
- I've tried. - You've been on audition shows?
- Yes, I applied for everything. - Tell us which shows they are.
"K-pop Star". "Star Audition: The Great Birth".
I've been on "Superstar K" too. It's not that I didn't try.
I didn't get a good result.
So I was either too sad or too embarrassed to tell Mom.
I didn't tell her about some.
Did you usually get eliminated in the preliminary round?
I sometimes got eliminated in the preliminary round.
I once got eliminated at the studio.
Which show was that?
That was "Star Audition: The Great Birth".
(He was her rival.)
You tried.
How many auditions have you been to in total?
- Including the agency auditions, - Including them.
I've been on 20 auditions.
- 20 auditions. - 20 auditions.
(Just 20?)
There are some comedians...
who passed the test after 10 tries.
They keep taking the test until they pass.
Yes. I only want to be the best,
and I was very much pressured by it.
The thought of getting eliminated...
daunted me.
I could've tried more, but that stopped me.
Is there a reason...
why you want to be a singer?
Since I was little, I've been playing piano and doing music.
I thought I should do music...
because I have the talent.
But after always staying alone in the practice room,
I realized I should stop confining myself...
and let my name known to the world before I die.
Becoming an idol is good too,
but like Lee So Ra and Kim Dong Ryul,
I want to become a singer who do music through...
concerts and album releases.
Your mom got shocked when she heard the word "album".
Everyone likes to do that kind of music.
But it's not that I didn't try.
In February, I will rent a theatre and perform in Hongdae.
I am trying to write a song.
A stable job is...
a rather vague term. So it's very difficult.
But have you ever thought about finding a stable job?
No. I've never thought about it.
- You have to become a singer. - Yes.
Do you think your mother...
is obligated to provide for you?
I think it's an investment to become successful.
(It's an investment.)
What is that?
I love how she puts it.
You think it's an investment. But what does your mother think?
Do you want her to become successful and pay you back?
No. Not at all.
I want her to become independent...
- and live well. - You want her to be independent?
Yes.
How much do you spend in about a month?
700 to 1,000 dollars.
- Is it right, ma'am? - How much is the rent?
- The rent is 300 dollars. - 300 dollars.
How much do you spend?
How much do you spend on grooming and social life?
I spend about 500 dollars. 500 dollars to 700 dollars.
- 500 dollars. - Yes.
- 1,800 dollars. - 1,800 dollars.
- Do you get paid for your lesson? - Yes.
How much do you earn in a month?
I usually make about 1,500 dollars.
(She spends more than she makes.)
(Until when do I have to support her?)
I think that financial support...
If my parents supported me financially,
- I couldn't become a writer. - Right.
- That's right. - It's because...
- She has no determination. - If you stop supporting her,
she has to find a job even if it doesn't pay her well.
She has to earn money.
If she gets fired, she has to figure out why.
She'll improve her skills while facing the world on her own.
If she tries to make ends meet while pursuing her singing career,
- she can become a singer. - That's right.
If your mother stopped giving you money,
do you think you can still pursue a singing career?
There's no financial support.
She doesn't want to even imagine that.
- She can't answer the question. - She doesn't want to think of it.
I would pursue my dream even if I have no money.
(I would pursue my dream.)
I still have pride even though I have no money.
- I really want to do it. - The problem is solved.
Then, you can just stop supporting her...
- financially, ma'am. - Stop giving her money.
But,
- you see... - But what?
I'm sorry. I apologize.
(She went back on her words.)
My second child majored in art in high school.
But I spent a lot of money to support her sister,
so she gave up on studying art in college.
- Really? - Yes.
Did she give up on her studies because of her sister?
The person next to her must be her younger sister.
- She looks so upset. - Right.
Shouldn't she be sitting on the stage with us?
Did you really give up on majoring in art because of your sister?
Back then, art academy fees...
were between 300 and 400 dollars a month.
Since my sister was studying music, I thought it'd burden my parents.
Also, I wasn't sure if it was the right career path for me.
I thought it'd be better to quit if I couldn't succeed in the field.
- She's realistic. - She's amazing.
That's why I quit.
But if your sister hadn't insisted on studying music,
would you have continued studying art?
Of course, I do imagine how things would have turned out...
- if I didn't give up. - Of course.
Your mother is here on the show to share her concerns.
Do you understand her concerns?
Yes. I can understand her concerns.
My sister lives separately from us, but I live with my mom in Busan.
- Right. - So she often tells me...
her concerns and complaints about my sister.
When she comes to Busan,
she asks Mom for money for the train fare.
And I think she needed a long-padded coat.
So she told Mom that she wanted a long-padded coat,
and Mom sent her about 200 dollars.
I think my sister is still...
a little immature.
(She says only right things.)
You must be stressed out as well.
What is your plan?
What are you planning to do to become a singer?
I'm planning to keep going for auditions...
for joining an entertainment agency...
until I turn 30.
So I can release my own song albums.
Once I join an agency,
I think I can overcome...
my uncertainty more easily than I can do now.
However, since I'm not very young,
I couldn't even apply for a few auditions...
because of age requirements.
Even if I want to apply for an audition,
I don't even get a chance because of my age.
You seem to be in a vicious cycle.
If this situation continued even after you turn 30,
what would you do then?
I'm considering starting my personal streaming channel.
I would also make use of social media.
(Only then?)
I'm a little worried about you.
I'm also a person who makes a living through creative activity.
The world of creation is very cruel.
If you're afraid of auditioning again after auditioning once,
it'd be hard for you to succeed as a creator.
That's what worries me.
- She makes too many excuses. - In fact,
- a singer should sing well. - That's right.
If we hear her sing,
we can see if it's because of her appearance...
or if she's being stubborn when she's not talented at all.
So let's hear her sing before we talk about it.
All right. Since everyone is curious,
shall we hear her sing?
(Let's hear her sing!)
Please come on the stage. Come here.
Thank you for listening in advance.
I will sing "Run to You" by LYn.
It's a song that you're confident to sing, right?
- Yes. - Okay.
(Confident)
(The moment of conveying her feelings to the audience...)
(that she has been dreaming of for a long time)
(Anxious)
(It's been a while)
(How have you been?)
(She delivers the emotion calmly.)
(Focusing on her voice)
(Is she doing well?)
(She's reaching the climax.)
(She made a mistake.)
(You can do it.)
(She regained control with her hand gestures.)
(Her singing method and facial expressions are similar to LYn's.)
(Well...)
(It's all my fault)
(Thank you for your performance.)
Thank you.
- I hoped to hear her high notes. - Exactly.
- It was a little disappointing. - Can you sing a different song?
Then I'll sing "Love, ing" by Ben.
Good. Please go ahead.
(She'll sing that difficult song?)
- It's a difficult song. - Please sing the chorus part...
without accompaniment.
"Love, ing" is a difficult song.
It's Ben's song.
(She sings powerfully from the beginning.)
(Surprised)
(She's good.)
(Immersing herself into the emotion)
(She sings just like Ben does.)
(She sings...)
(as if today was her last day.)
She's good.
(I approve.)
- She sings well. - She hit the high notes easily.
Eric is the only singer among us.
- He must be under pressure. - Let's hear what he thinks.
(Nervous)
I realized this...
- when you sang "Love, ing". - She has potential?
You seemed to try to sing just like Ben does...
while singing "Love, ing".
And you used vibrato the same way LYn does...
- when you sang her song. - That's right.
I don't know your true color...
yet.
I think you have a good voice and good singing skills,
but how you use them...
will be the biggest issue.
She definitely has singing talent.
- I agree. - I'm certain of it.
She can control the volume of her voice.
She's confident and has a powerful voice.
But how will she show her own color?
Tae Gyun, you're also a singer.
- Well, yes. - You released many albums.
- 11 albums. - Right.
(The veteran singer with 11 albums)
(Really?)
What position are you looking to obtain as a singer?
What is your ultimate career goal?
And how far do you think you can go?
What he's asking is if you want to become a successful singer...
and earn a lot of money through your singing career,
or if you would give up on your dream...
if your album doesn't get any good reviews.
- Right. - That's what he's asking.
Think about how far you would go for your dream.
(Well...)
I have never thought about it seriously before.
(Did I mishear her?)
If I answer the question...
after a brief moment of thinking,
I want to take this to the end.
If I was going to quit...
just because one song album didn't become a hit,
I would've given up a long time ago.
But there's no agency that wants to release your album.
I think I would start performing on the street.
If I can't release an album, I would sing on the street.
- Shouldn't you have done it before? - That's good thinking.
You're right. I just realized it.
(I don't think she has a proper attitude.)
- You want to be a famous singer. - Yes.
- I majored in theater. - I see.
I also dreamed of becoming a leading actress...
just like Kim Hye Soo.
However, I was a realist.
I failed auditions hundreds of times,
but I tried to improve myself...
and worked hard to make my dream come true in a realistic way.
It seems to me that you're insisting on the straight path.
Nothing can be done like that.
- She's right. - No one can succeed like that.
I was surprised when you said you will start busking.
It's so shocking that you are not doing it right now.
It's also shocking that you're not running your own streaming channel.
I was shocked when she said she's too old now.
- I am seriously shocked. - She's supposed to be doing it now.
I'm sorry to tell you this,
but I think you're just doing a lesson and have fun in Seoul.
I don't know...
what you do in your spare time after the lessons.
I'm so curious about it.
If I tell you my weekly schedule,
I have singing lessons on Mondays, Wednesdays,
Thursdays, and weekends.
I take the rest of the days off.
(I take the rest of the days off.)
(She's too relaxed.)
When I came to Seoul, I didn't want to worry my parents.
(Eric applied for an audition to become a singer in Korea.)
(He made it to the top 5 and proved his ability.)
I appeared on many TV shows and became famous.
I also performed at private events.
But I didn't make enough money.
So I worked as a backup singer for idol singers,
as a guiding singer, and a music director.
I tried to sell my songs.
I visited composers whom I wasn't even acquainted with...
to ask them to work with me.
This is why I asked you about your career goal.
I think you should set up your goal...
and then start working.
Ma'am, it's time for you to be determined.
You need to stop supporting her.
I really want to do that.
This year, I'd like you to become more independent...
and not depend on your parents.
Do you think you can try that?
No, don't ask for her opinion.
Just say that you won't support her.
Since you're making some money, starting next month,
will you be able to do it?
Don't ask her.
- That's how mothers are. - You're right.
- She's a mother after all. - It's not easy.
Do you have anything to say to your mom?
I've realized many things today.
I'll be more desperate and diligent.
I promise.
Are you okay with her cutting support?
- Yes, I understand. - Don't ask her for money.
- I won't. - Okay?
- Okay. - How about receiving...
just 100 to 150 dollars a month?
I won't receive anything.
- At all? - At all.
- That's good. - Great.
(Congratulations)
Seung Yeon, go first. Do you think it's worry or not?
I was kicked out in the beginning as well...
and stayed at my friend's uncle's warehouse.
Even in such harsh conditions, those who are determined...
will continue to do so.
Those who stop weren't meant to go down that path.
- Right. - Once she cuts off support,
you'll find out whether or not you're a true artist.
So I don't think this is a worry.
- It's a simple solution. - That was inspiring.
I don't think it's a worry either.
In the mother's point of view, I don't think it's a worry.
All she needs to do is cut off support.
She's 28 years old,
but you treat her like an eight-year-old.
You have to let her go.
Don't be too sure of yourself, and keep striving.
I don't think it's a worry either.
If you think it's a worry in her position,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Let's see how many votes she received.
This is the last day of your giving support.
It's over now. Let's see the result.
(The result)
The last digit is 5. Is it over 100?
(What will it be?)
She received 55 votes.
(55 votes)
This week, the winner is "Just Quit Now!"
The winner will receive a cash prize.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
("Miss You" by Eric Nam)